It's been relatively quiet the last few weeks, that is to say, I haven't heard anything directly from 'her' side since my last post. Which all things considering, is a good thing for me.
I spoke to my lawyer once, I think the same day as I posted, later in the afternoon and he told me not to worry. He says this was a ludicrous offer and only a judge, out of his/her mind, would accept this. Which begs me to ask, if the counetr offer is so outlandish to begin with, why did her lawyer allow that offer to even float over? I guess it really doesn't matter...maybe her lawyer allowed this to happen to either: A) see if they could get a rise out of me and how I would react, or B) Everything my ex-wife does earns her lawyer $$, even the silly stuff she can be billed for, but I do indeed wonder how my wife is paying for this all.
I know I'll end up paying her some alimony, but the longer she doesn't get her hands on it, the better. The only news I really have to report is that my lawyer and hers have a meeting on Feb. 26th as a preliminary to setting a trial date. This is mandated by the court and I have a copy of the official summons, so it is moving at a snail's pace....but it is moving.
One really sad thing happened this past week that breaks my heart, but also goes to prove yet again that my wife has infact not changed is the following: My step-daughter turns 21 in about two weeks from now and she posted the fact she is having a party in a few weeks. A mutual friend of my wife's and mine (Mostly my wife as they grew up together, went to school together, were best friends at some point) asked my step-daughter if she could attend. My step-daughter said yes and sent my wife's friend the details.
The very next day, my step-daughter (who as I said will be 21) was forced to call this person and "un-invite" her per my wife's crazy demands. My wife is upset that this person was "one" of the people that shared the fact that she lied to me and went out of town to meet her male 'friend' when I was led to believe she was taking part of a girl's night out only 30 minutes from our house, as opposed to 4 hours away in another state.
So yes, my wife has been texting some nasty stuff to her ex-friend blaming her for taking my side, and thus is not invited to her daughter's birthday. This person has helped my wife so many times in the past, even prior to me, by babysitting her daughter when she was growing up, attending other functions, and countless other favors.
There is absolutely nothing I can do here but shake my head at my ex. This person is heart-broken for being uninvited, but not by my daughter, but by my ex. My ex is so bitter and angry in these text messages, there is no way she has 'changed'. How she has her parents believing she is, is beyond me.
This is the person who accuses me for not being able to forgive her, but apparently she can't forgive her own best friend for exposing her own double-life. Good Lord. Even though this incident has nothing directly to do with me, it still affects me indirectly to see how vitriolic my wife can be and how she continues to hurt those that don't agree with her or see her side.
I told this person she is better off. Be strong. You didn't do anything wrong. Your only crime (and it's only a crime to my wife) is that you exposed her lies, and you weren't the only one. Why do you want to be associated with someone who can throw away a 30 year friendship just as easily as an 8 year marriage? Be happy. Don't let her rob your joy, because if you get caught up in the drama, you gave 'her' the power....that is me talking from experience....first hand.
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